Being a writer is a lonely business. It really is. I don't mind that so much because after a life of noise and chaos it is nice to have a little peace and quiet, a little solitude with just my thoughts and words to keep me company. It is actually a little addictive and I get a bit resentful when everyone arrives home from work/school in the afternoon. The intruders!
But sometimes it is a little bit too lonely, a little bit too quiet. It becomes eerie and my thoughts start questioning themselves. My words become a tad inbred.
The thing that pierces through that swollen bubble of disquiet is a random message from a stranger who has read my book and taken the time to track me down and tell me what they thought. On particularly desolate days, a kind word and a shared story can make my day.
Having my book in the libraries around the country and on shelves in department stores and quaint bookstores and even on iTunes is surreal and when someone contacts me to tell me how they stumbled across my book and how it touched them, it makes being a writer a rewarding occupation. I feel less self-absorbed and more connected to the readers. I feel blessed that someone shared my story. It's an intimacy I had not expected when I had my memoir published.
Here are some of the gems that I have been sent.
''One Way or Another' will be in my bookcase for many years to come. I am even thinking of putting it in a time capsule for future generations to enjoy!' Sue from Brisbane.
"Thank-you for sharing your past and capturing Australian culture. Well written and a brilliant read." Mark, Melbourne.
'It was nice to read about somebody else who lived the teenage years as we did, only in a braver sense and I admire your courage to write a book about it.' Maree, Sydney.
'I finished your book and didn't want to stop reading. It would make a great movie!' Meaghan, Sydney.
'I'm reading your book and enjoying the spirit with which you attack life,' John (72), Hobart.
'Just loved your book. Couldn't put it down. Congratulations on a great job,' Cathy, Sydney.
'I can't describe how much I loved 'One Way or Another'. You just made the life of a sixteen year old a whole lot more awesome!' Monaliza, Melbourne.
I have made friends with some of these readers and love hearing their eighties/rock stories. I am so happy that my book has touched other people. It makes me feel all loved up.
Now, my wish list is just that...a wish list and I have no intention of hunting down these poor blokes for a good time. I am very happily married and completely faithful. But a girl can dream.........
1. Sasha Baron Cohen.
He has just been a recent addition to my list and went straight to number one. A sense of humour is the key to my heart. There is nothing sexier than a funny man and this bloke is funny. I particularly like an irreverently funny man. Sasha has just pipped Jack Black off top spot because in addition to being hilarious, Sasha is also gorgeous. Tall...I do like tall men even though I am quite ridiculously short. He is dark-haired and has a killer smile. He is also Jewish and I have met some pretty lovely Jewish men over the years and so, although running the risk of stereotyping, I think I'm rather partial to a Jewish man.
2. Jack Black.
I love this cuddly fellow. Again, he has a sense of humour and he can rock out something fierce. He would be endlessly entertaining. He too has a lovely smile and he looks like someone I could snuggle up to on a Sunday morning.
3. Nicholas Cage.
He used to be number one but his shenanigans of late suggest that he is an arrogant tosser. I won't hold that completely against him though, because he is gorgeous, intense and hilarious. I'm not sure that he is hilarious deliberately but just for 'The Vampire's Kiss' I love this man.
4. Jack White.
Of White Stripes fame, this Jack is just so cute I could eat him with a spoon. I love his voice, his songs, his boyish smile. I don't know if he's funny but I suspect he is...the squirrel song is pretty amusing.
5. Barrack Obama.
He's just so clever and cute. I don't know if he's funny but I think I could make him giggle!
6. Kevin Rudd.
It's that smile and laugh. He's viciously ambitious and can pull off a swear word with aplomb.
7. Johnny Depp.
I don't need to explain myself here.
8. Owen Wilson
The voice. The sparkle in his eyes. He's funny and a great writer. A bit naughty, which is always good and he's got some interesting issues.
9. Rod Stewart
He's getting a bit on these days but he still has that certain something. He is a funny chap, sexy and has a gravelly voice that is like audio-foreplay.
10. Ricky Gervais.
Smile. Humour. Intelligence. I would enjoy his company immensely and I think he's cute.
That's my wish list as it stands.
Just felt like sharing that.
This happens to me all the time and I think if you are attuned and listening to the life around you, you'll find it happens to you too. What you say? Eerie coincidences. Inexplicable coincidences. Fate stepping in to surprise you. There was that fairly ordinary book, The Celestine Prophecy some years back which spawned a rash of spin-offs. Why did it do so well? It wasn't brilliant writing,,,it was the fact that it touched a nerve and tried to give some explanation for something we often have no explanation for. Eerie coincidences. They happen all the time...really.
Is there some synchronicity at work behind the scenes?
I like to think so. I think it comes down to the fact that life on this planet, including the actual planet, is one energy force that we are all a part of. We are cells in a much greater organism not even able to comprehend the whole that we are part of. I think whacky coincidences are a glimpse of that greater connection. True enlightenment and peace will only be possible when we realise that we are all interrelated....plants, animals, all races, minerals, water, air.....everything. Hate and war and cruelty are like cancers and will eventually kill the entire body.
And that is my Yoda message of the day. Treat everything you meet today - cat, dog, table, chair, irate cab driver, short-changing check-out chick, arsehole neighbours, friends, lovers and children as an extension of yourself and know that their happiness means your happiness.
Look at the coincidences that appear in your life and try to read what they are telling you. I think the coincidence of finding a familiar face above the loo in that New York Brownstone was a sign that I must buy it and live there....so if my message has been helpful to you...rush out and buy my book, 'One Way or Another' in all good bookstores in Australia and NZ and on itunes and kindle for the rest of you. At about $2 a book in royalties I need to sell an awful lot...so buy a couple for your friends.
It's a coincidence that you are reading this blog! Think about it!!!!